When do we begin to name what is? So many places in our culture have a different set of rules. Let the phrases trickle through your mind that you have heard over the years: that’s just how it is in medicine, that’s the job of the church, that’s how people talk in sports.
When do we begin to name what is? There are words for this: sexual harassment, spiritual abuse, bullying. It takes courage to use the names. It takes courage to call what I see in me what it is: Control, contempt, manipulation. I learned to call it by nicer names. Those names do not recognize the violence for what it is. Even when there are no words: Silence can be violence as well.
It takes courage to name what is. Courage comes each day like Grace. It is not something that I have to drum up; it is given.
Dare. Begin. Name.